Stepping Out Of Fear!

FEAR  =  F- false  E- evidence A- appearing  R- real

All of us have issues with fear; some people are more prone to worry and fear than others. Yet today I hope to help break down the fear that may be plaguing your life with a fairly simple (yet not easy) process!

Whenever we are motivated by f-e-a-r, we need to stop and really examine it. Some people are very adapt at locating what is *really* going on with them during times of crisis…others need help to even identify what is really motivated the upset. Here are some emotional symptoms that will help you identify that the *real* problem is fear.

Symptoms of Fear:

Worry

Anxiety

Confusion

Dulling of senses

Panic

Terror

Dissociation

Process to move out of Fear:

1. The first step in shifting a pattern/problem in our lives is identifying the root of the issue.

Example: let’s say the fear is about financial insecurity; when finding the root of the issue you can journal or meditate after asking yourself the question…”why am I SO scared that I won’t have enough money.”

Then write what comes up for you…more likely than not that IS the root!

1. Next is true acceptance of the origin of the issue. Use a positive affirmation to replace the old thoughts of financial insecurity.

Example: “I realize this fear is not rational, I realize I have this fear because_____, I know that today I have enough $” Be sure that you write your own affirmation and that you can believe your affirmation…it’s your own it!

Notice any resistance and write about it…every little detail matters.

1. Then I want you to watch what triggers the negative thoughts and feelings and always try to take the time to help yourself to feel better.

So this step is more about your feelings. Do you feel anxious, a tightening in your chest, angry? Are you able to nurture yourself enough to move to a better feeling?

1. Forgiveness<<< yes I know blah,blah,blah…you will see I have a different take on forgiveness. I always want you to forgive yourself FIRST!

1. Freedom…also known as letting go…more on this later.

This whole process is fairly simple, yet not easy. You can benefit greatly learning and walking through these steps with me as your coach. If you are suffering with fear now, please take advantage of the complimentary session by signing up in the form on the left sidebar of my website http://www.transformingfamily.com

*These deep rooted issues are often a apart of who we are…that’s OK in my book…we just need to learn how to work with them and ourselves so we are not hurt or held back in our lives! Often the process above is repeated over and over when we get triggered…yet it will go quicker and less painfully.*

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